Bármerre nézünk, egyre többet tapasztalhatjuk, hogy a Női nem képviselői "elmachosodnak". A gyengéd, kedves Nő mintha eltünne és helyette agrasszív, törtető, kegyetlenkedő, türelmetlen hárpiák vesznek körűl bennünket. A mimózalelkű, érzékeny, kedves, gyengéd, igazi Nők hova lettek?
A családokban háború és villongások keserítik az életet. A gyerekek ezt látják, szenvedik. Mit lehet tenni ez ellen?
nem volt valasztasom,nem volt hova mennem a gyerekekkel...a fizetsembol orultem,ha fenntartottuk magunkat,nemhogy meg egy kulon lakast bereljek...Lehet mondani a szep,hivatalos utat,csak eppen az evekig tart....
varjal,kicsit hazudtam:) a kozepso fiu es mar vagy 25 kiloval nehezbb nalam,meteres a hata,eddig kenuzott,most vizilabdazik ,es ha lekeverne egyet,egy hetig porognek...megtehetne,hiszen erosebb nalam joval...vagy nem igy gondoltad??
en speciel a gyerekeimet sem utom meg csak azert,mert fizikai folenyben vagyok veluk szemben es megtehetnem...pedig elhiheted,fel tudnak huzni es van beloluk 3:)
nem ertem meg...nekem mar 1x sikerult ugy felhuznom mostani a paromat,hogy szive szerint jol nyakonvagott volna,/lugy lattam rajta/de nem tette...Osszetort valamit
nem ertem meg,hogy a fizikai foleny akarmire is hasznalhato igazoltan...
lehetsz duhos,tehetetlen,ezer mas modja van levezetni a feszultseget...
ugyanugy lelki roncsot csinalt belolem,mintha "csak" lelki terrort alkalmazott volna...Sokaig remegett a kezem,nem ertem el az 50 kilot,rangatozott a szemem..a mai napig vannak olyan vedekezo reakcioim,amik abbol az idobol szarmaznak...
nem akarom kisebbiteni a masikfajta bantalmazast sem,ne gondold,de ha fizikaival egeszul ki,talan sulyosabb..
de ertem..kriminalizalva van?? Mindenki szart ram es a gyerekeimre,minden hivatal,rendorseg,gyamhatosag...most akkor mirol is beszelunk???
tudod,nagyon megalazo es idegesito a lelki terror,elismerem...de el tudod te kepzelni az erzest,mikor a hatadon terdelnek,ugy utik a fejedet a sikito gyereked elott???? A fizikai fajdalom egy turo a tehetetlenseg es a megalazottsag mellett..
ezek utan az"elmenyek" utan megerleledott bennem az igazi agresszivitas /talan ezt ertitek rajta/
ha megegyszer az eletben barki kezet emel ram,vagy a gyerekeimre,agressziv modon azon nyomban sajat kezuleg belezem ki....elhiheted,hogy ezek nem csak szavak...de szerencsemre joideje nem bant mar senki,a mostani parom ismeri az eloeletemet,meg egyebkent sem verekedos fajta:)
a hisztit,a lelki terrort, a nok mas ezerfele eszkozet a hatalomra nem lehet egy kalap ala venni egy-ket joliranyzott pofonnal...
Szar egy ember,aki akar ezekkel a lelki dolgokkal el,de a fizikai agresszivitas magaval hozza a lelkit is es ettol ez mar ketszeres....
Termeszetesen nem mentem egy percig sem azokat a noket,akik barmi hasolo modon zsaroljak,sakkban tartjak a ferjuket/parjukat,de nekik a az altalaban kisebb fizikai erejuk miatt nincs meg az az eszkozuk,hogy egy vitat,veszekedest egy taslival zarjanak le..talan ertheto....
Amerikában könnyebb nekik,mert ott alapból a férfit viszik el.Itt magyarországon viszont egyelőre előfordulhat hogy ők húzzák a rövidebbet,a férfi ugyanis erősebb,és egyszer elszakad a cérna.
természetesen vannak basáskodó férfiak is bőven.Ez nem a fizikai erőről szól,hanem a hatalomról a másik felett.A nők technikái különböznek,és inkább a pszichikai megfélemlítés eszközével próbálnak élni.
A few men, though, are willing to swallow their pride and call the police when they've been abused by their wives. While each of the police officers I spoke with very carefully claimed that "domestic violence calls are all handled the same way--regardless of the gender of the victim," male victims tell a very different story. Tracy T., for example, a 36-year old professional from near San Francisco, was regularly attacked by his wife and, just as regularly, called the police. "But every time they'd show up, they'd just laugh it off and tell me not to take it so seriously."
One evening, after his wife had hit him with a shoe and thrown a phone at him, Tracy says he finally decided enough was enough. When she came at him again, he slapped her. "She immediately stopped hitting me and called the police." When they arrived a few minutes later, Tracy tried to explain what had happened. "There I was, cuts and bruises all over my arms, but when I told the cops I'd only slapped her in self-defense, they told me I was under arrest for beating my wife." For Skip W., things weren't much better. After he reported his wife's violence, he was ordered to attend a program for abusive men, while his wife was put into a program for battered women.
Had intercourse with 2 teenagers Pleads guilty to incest charges
The Toronto Star, Kitchener-Record, by DIANNE WOOD, TORSTAR NEWS SERVICE, October 3, 2004
Kitchener—A Kitchener woman has pleaded guilty to having sexual intercourse with her two teenage sons on separate occasions.
The woman can't be named to protect the identities of her sons. She sobbed in Kitchener's Ontario Court on Friday as the two incest charges were read out and the facts given.
The 35-year-old woman will be sentenced next month. Crown prosecutor Mark Poland said outside court that sentences for incest can range from house arrest to a prison term. He said such cases, involving mothers, are rare.
"We see it the other way around where the father's abusing the daughter way more frequently," Poland said.
The court heard that the woman told a worker at an alcohol detoxification centre what she'd done after going there to deal with her alcoholism. Alcohol was involved in both incidents.
Poland said after the woman split up with her husband, the boys lived with her. A few months later, she left them at her husband's doorstep with a note saying she couldn't take care of them.
After some time, she began visiting her sons at her ex-husband's home. This lasted for several years until her husband began to suspect she was drinking, and reduced the contact.
From 2001 to 2003, there was almost no contact with the boys, court heard. Her ex-husband allowed contact to resume after the woman assured him she was no longer drinking. The boys began visiting the woman and her boyfriend at her home again this year.
During one visit on Jan. 30, the mother gave her sons alcohol, court heard.
As the night wound on, everyone went to bed except the woman and one son. He and his mother began a conversation about his girlfriend, which turned to sexual matters. The two embraced, removed their clothes and sexual intercourse followed. The next day, they discussed what had happened, decided it was wrong and said it would not occur again.
On March 12, the two boys were visiting their mother once more. Again, alcohol was provided.
Everyone went to bed except the second son. He was feeling drunk. His mother helped him downstairs to bed and started to tuck him in.
He began playing with his mother's hair and they began a conversation about his social life. The teen told his mother he was having sexual fantasies about her. They embraced and had sex.
The next day, the mother talked with the second boy and they decided it would never happen again.
Several days later, the woman relayed a message to her ex-husband to pick up the boys because she had to go into a detoxification clinic, where she admitted she'd had sex with her sons. Family and Children's Services were called and then police. The boys confirmed her story. The woman also pleaded guilty to breaching a court order not to contact her sons after her arrest. Kitchener-Waterloo Record.
